5 Dec

B and I are going out again.

Probably not for a week or two as my schedule is jam-packed right now. And that’s probably a good thing. After all, I need to take things niiiiiice and slow.

But that’s not to say I’m not a little bit excited that I might get to kiss his face.

This kissing thing is something I discussed with one of my guy friends ahead of B and my first date. Obviously, I was nervous. And scared of being rejected. And wondering if I even remember how to kiss. My friend told me not to even think about it. He said that he almost never kisses a girl who he really likes on their first date. He doesn’t want to worry about that: he wants to concentrate on whether he likes her and wants to see her again. So he removes the whole end-of-night snog from the equation for that very reason.

In fact, he didn’t kiss his last girlfriend (who he was with for several years) until the very end of their second date. And with good reason. Previous to that moment, the only opportunity for kissing had come when they were in a bar and a gang of teenagers started rap battling. He thought, “If I end up marrying this girl I don’t want my memory of our first kiss to be three kids competing to rhyme”.

He’s quite a romantical big idiot, really.

My ex once told me that if a guy doesn’t kiss you on the first date, he doesn’t find you attractive. End of story.

My friend sees things differently.

He tells me to chill out, not to worry about things, and to “Remember, Apes, you never know when you’ll have your last first kiss.”

8 Responses to “Kissing”

  1. luciddream85 December 5, 2013 at 4:58 pm #

    I like this friend a lot more than your ex. God, he really was an egotistical ass wasn’t he?

    • aprileb December 5, 2013 at 4:59 pm #

      Funny, my counsellor said similar to me yesterday! x

  2. plf1990 December 5, 2013 at 5:06 pm #

    Eek, my tummy did flips at the thought of that moment of first kiss-ness 🙂 it’s so lovely! I’m so excited for you x

  3. jadedwildcat December 5, 2013 at 6:32 pm #

    I hope you get to kiss his face – yes indeed.
    Kissing is something *so* unbelievably important to me, and I don’t think I could ever go out with a guy who didn’t enjoy kissing as well.
    And yes of course, that ever-important first kiss kinda does play a big role but… on the other hand, I don’t think it means a guy doesn’t find you attractive if he doesn’t do it on the first date – that’s just silly!
    Tons of guys are just as awkward about what to do on a first date as women are!

    Good luck anyway. ❤

  4. shiftybananas December 5, 2013 at 7:45 pm #

    Nice and slow is the way to go. Trust me on that. I’m still hanging out with date guy and he wants to make things between is official, but nice and slow is a good pace. Don’t leave one thing only to rush into another. That is not to say you can’t enjoy a nice, long, delicate kiss. Aaahhhh siiiiigh! Just go out there and have fun!!

    • aprileb December 5, 2013 at 8:02 pm #

      This is great advice. And I’m glad you are enjoying hanging out with date guy. Nice and slow is the way to go! x

  5. whiskeyinateacupp December 7, 2013 at 10:37 pm #

    oh i love that advice “youll never know when youll have your last first kiss”! that is too cute and adorable and so true!

    • aprileb December 8, 2013 at 10:51 pm #

      It is true. You never know what (or who) is just around the corner x

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