Date night revisited

4 Dec



I met B at a trendy East London hangout. I felt pretty weird walking there, walking past a lot of the places my ex and I used to hang out. It was almost like walking through my last relationship. Not that I was over-analysing things. Clearly.

I was feeling more than a little nervous, but one of my friends texted and told me her husband couldn’t understand how any man wouldn’t fancy me. Which definitely gave me a nice little ego boost.

I waited outside the bar for B. Doing that thing – studying everyone who walks past trying to work out if it’s him even if they look nothing like him. Awkward. 

After ten minutes I went inside. Turns out he had already arrived, and his phone was dead. 

He was kind of what I expected. A little nervous. Definitely a little shy. (My ex was way too confident with the ladies – and liked to talk about being so – so this was actually kind of refreshing.) He’s good-looking, but I didn’t feel that grrrrrrr-I-need-to-rip-your-clothes-off feeling.

We drank cocktails for about three hours. We talked non-stop. We talked about all kinds of things – work, life, family, London, holidays, silly things you do when you’re a kid, Richard Gere (I mentioned in my eHarmony profile how much I hate Richard Gere. Disgusting man.)

Towards the end, B talked about how we’ve been emailing for nearly a month. And he talked about how funny I am, and different from other girls. I told him he’s the only guy I’ve dated from eHarmony (obviously I didn’t go into detail about my ex and my last round on the site).  At this point I was pretty sure he liked me, and had decided I definitely wanted to see him again as he’s a nice human being with a hot face.

We walked to my bus stop, but the bus wasn’t coming for ages, so I walked him to the tube instead.

The predictably cringey goodbye ensued. We hugged. I said something about hoping I’d see him again. He said, “Nice to meet you, mate.”



I took this as a very bad sign.

I walked myself back to the bus stop, and got home about 1.30 in the morning feeling a little worse for wear after all those sugary cocktails.

This morning he texted saying, “I’d heard internet dating horror stories, but it was very sweet of you to walk me to the tube. I was really pleased to finally meet you. Enjoy your 9 am meeting. x” He also texted me a picture of his snow fox Christmas decoration which we had discussed in detail last night.

Again, I took this text as a bad sign. Very much a “nice to meet you” i.e. I won’t be seeing you again.

But I’m a polite girl, so I texted back saying that his snow fox looked more like a sorry state of a snow otter, and it was very nice to meet him too.

Low and behold, he texted back with a picture of an otter. 

And he’s been texting ever since.

11 Responses to “Date night revisited”

  1. intothebeauty December 4, 2013 at 3:32 pm #

    Ahhh yay! THANK YOU for the details. We needed those! I don’t think the “nice to meet yous” were a bad sign at all. Or even him calling you mate. The Drummer and I kept it very friendly for the first few dates-I mean, technically you are starting out as mates right? I’m SO glad it went well. Keep your head up. Don’t let memories of your ex flood the other parts of your brain because you’re talking to someone else. It’s happened to me, too. Shoot. I’m going to post about that now that I think about it. xoxo love from the states!

    • aprileb December 4, 2013 at 5:03 pm #

      Well, he just texted and asked me out again, so not a bad sign at all. He’s just shy and not a womanizer. Which is new for me! x

      • intothebeauty December 4, 2013 at 7:13 pm #

        Aw yay NO WAY! That’s so exciting. Here’s to new beginnings. Even if it doesn’t go anywhere, at least you got the first single lady date out of the way. You’re a pro now. Welcome. Welcome to this weird life after love.

    • aprileb December 4, 2013 at 5:03 pm #

      Looking forward to reading your post

  2. Cheri December 4, 2013 at 5:10 pm #

    Reblogged this on The Sexy Cynics.

  3. Farmer Farthing December 4, 2013 at 5:40 pm #

    Well done you, and you didn’t cry :). I’ve been looking forward to reading this all day!! I’m just a little curious…why do you hate Richard Gere? x

    • aprileb December 5, 2013 at 4:55 pm #

      I just can’t stand him! I find ‘Pretty Woman’ really offensive on so many levels, but – above all – the scene with him in the bath. Ugh. He ruined Chicago for me.

  4. literarylydi December 5, 2013 at 10:22 am #

    great news! keep us posted…

  5. luciddream85 December 5, 2013 at 3:56 pm #

    Hooray! I would have felt the exact same as you when he called you ‘mate’ ….. then again I’m always looking for a reason that I’m not good enough, and figure it won’t take others very long to realize it, too.

    I’m so glad there’s going to be a second date 🙂

    • aprileb December 5, 2013 at 4:55 pm #

      Oh I was so quick to assume he wasn’t interested. Just goes to show, we are our own toughest critics. x

  6. whiskeyinateacupp December 7, 2013 at 10:35 pm #

    yay! good things turned out for the better and glad you replied back to him (:

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