My friend Lisa sent me the most amazing email last week. It was full of wisdom and strength and some of the best advice I have had. Including the suggestion that I get my paws on a copy of this book, ‘How To Survive The Loss of a Love’.
I just got it. And I only just started reading, but already I feel better for it. The book has poetry interwoven with self help and motivational guidance. A strangely therapeutic mix.
So far, this poem sums up my feelings best:
I am Joy.
I am everything.
I can do all things but two:
1. forget that I love you
2. forget that you no longer love me.
Pizza of Doom 
Looks like I’m going to have to get this book.
Get yourself on Amazon right now. I think I may be up all night reading.
I just placed my order. I will have it on Wednesday 🙂
Great news! Let me know what you think of it x
I love those lines! Seems like a great book. I think about it a lot, you know. Like, I know I’m ready to date again and I do still like talking to men, but I feel like I could still cry over my ex. It’s so crazy. I just want to shake my head out of this whole escapade so I can just move on with my life. But there are still tears there. I wonder if you truly stop feeling pain when someone else comes to make you feel even a little loved again? I need to get me this book.
Get the book! According to the blurb it is one of the ten most recommended books by psychologists. It’s lovely to read. Like being in a brain spa. I can feel it relaxing me.
I don’t know if your pain and grief will ever go entirely away. I know I’m a few months behind you, but I’m just thinking, would it be kind of weird if you no longer had any of that pain? This was a major life event and aftermath that has changed you and shaped you. I have a suspicion that it will always be there, tucked away in your heart. BUT I think life gets bigger around it. So it feels less significant. And that’s why, when you meet someone else, you can heal some of those last remaining wounds.
Plus, the drummer sounds pretty awesome. Right? X
Haha! Yes. He definitely seems sort of awesome. And you’re absolutely right. It’s like having a cut that leaves a scar. It doesn’t go away, but the pain does. Thanks girl. I’m definitely going to get that book. Christmas list!
“I have a suspicion that it will always be there, tucked away in your heart. BUT I think life gets bigger around it.”
This can’t be more true. Life does gets bigger around it and better too. 🙂
It’s a combination of time and willingness. Time to heal, willingness to keep going and experience new things.