Dating stalemate

11 Aug

I have a few dates lined up. With a few different dudes. Don’t judge. It’s 2014. It’s London. And I’m 32. Options must be kept wiiiiiide open.

Problem is, I don’t seem capable of mustering up the energy to go on these dates.

I just want to skip to being with a nice guy at the comfy, cosy stage where you can lie on them on the sofa, or stick your feet in their lap, or fall asleep on them. I want conversation and sex and everything too, not just a glorified mattress, but you get the idea. Comfort is key.

I look ahead to Christmas. To next year. To turning 33. And I think, “Dear God let me have met someone.”

But I cannot face putting on makeup and getting my hopes up only to face two hours of inane chat over drinks.

I’m trying to convince myself that dating can be fun. But, really, can dating be anything other than awkward over the age of 30?

Let’s hope so.

7 Responses to “Dating stalemate”

  1. riri1124 August 11, 2014 at 9:01 pm #

    Yes, dating at 54 can be even more awkward. 🙂
    I still (kind of) believe love happens when you’re not looking.
    So I’m not.
    Because, yeah – the dressing up and making up and hair do-ing is still one. huge. effort.
    Agreed; It would be supremely awesome to just hyper-speed to the comfort zone.

  2. riri1124 August 11, 2014 at 9:02 pm #

    Oh – I misread! I thought you had written “Can anything be more awkward that dating at 32.” Sorry. :/
    Multi-tasking fail.

  3. riri1124 August 11, 2014 at 9:03 pm #

    Going home now!

  4. plf1990 August 12, 2014 at 9:20 am #

    You have over half your life ahead of you. Technically, you only became an adult 14 years ago – if you lived to be 80ish you’re less than 1/4 of the way through your adult life.

    Go if you want, have fun, but don’t put pressure on yourself. I think love happens when you’re not looking for it – and I am sure you’ll meet your soulmate in the queue at the till, or because you bump into him on the tube and tip coffee over him. I have complete faith – keep yours xxx

    • Tinkerbellknits August 12, 2014 at 1:23 pm #

      Being in the same position and same age I’m really hoping that it isn’t so bad. I haven’t even mustered the energy to start dating again so I’m really hoping plf1990 is right and I won’t have to try to hard!
      Best of luck with the dates, just have fun and don’t try to hard. Men are just as nervous and awkward as girls so just try to have a laugh. And well done for getting out there again… best get my act together too now. x

  5. Anne August 12, 2014 at 9:10 pm #

    Have fun! Same here, just came back from a so-so date. But you know, it’s just practice so that one day, when you’ll meet the love of your life in the italian class/subway/4th wedding you have to attend as a single you’re not like omg, first single hetersoexual man over 30 I’ve talked to in years, panic attack! And so far I’ve had a lot of been there done that moments (self-assured arrogant Finish guy (but blond) – I’m not 16 anymore, very emotional Hippie – no, and I don’t want to talk about it, undecisve guy NEVER AGAIN.
    So, apparently made some progress. I guess it s a face, instead of contacting them (yup, thought about it) just dating similiar guys.
    Can’t wait to hear your stories!

  6. Michelle August 14, 2014 at 12:43 pm #

    I can empathize. Some people love the thrill of the catch, not me. I hate the awkward first few dates. The monotonous questions you ask each other as protocol to see if you check the boxes on each others list to qualify for another date. If I have to date, I want to cut the chase and get right to the cozy part!

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