Irish Two and I went to see The Lego Movie today. Then we went for Vietnamese food. Then we walked home in the rain.
It had all the makings of a perfect date, except we were doing it as friends.
At dinner I gave him career advice. He gave me relationship advice.
Since we became “just friends” I’ve been hoping for more. I’ve been hoping for benefits. Sexual ones, to be precise. I’ve seen the Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake movie. I’ve seen the identical movie with Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher. These both convinced me that a friend with benefits is a real asset. Though I’m not sure this was supposed to be my take on them.
Nothing.
Not even a kiss from Irish Two.
Did he never even find me attractive?
I know it’s probably better this way. This way we actually stand a chance of being friends. I stand a chance of moving on. But I do miss the sex. I miss feeling desirable.
Of course, there are other benefits. As long as we continue to watch movies and eat meals without any touching at all, I can neglect to shave my legs, and I needn’t worry about doing anything to my bikini line.
After all, nobody else is doing anything to it.
Maybe he wants the same thing but he’s not sure what you want and he’s afraid of doing something that will repulse you. It can’t hurt to give him some signals that you’d like more, for example, touching him a lot and stuff.
You find humor in the worst of situations lol. I love it. I’ve done the friends with benefits thing. I had a guy that would text me specifically when he wanted sex. He would come in through the back door, we’d bang, he’d get dressed and leave, and I wouldn’t hear a thing from him for a week or so. I guess maybe that’s less friends with benefits and more just a sex buddy. In the end, it made me feel cheap, I didn’t really enjoy the sex after a while. I have found that the weirdest thing about being a big girl is that fact that men still want to sleep with me, and I think it’s because they just assume that since I’m big, I am loose with myself. Maybe they are right. Point is; take it as a compliment that he doesn’t want to knock boots. He respects you more than that. He respects your mind and your opinions and you company. Hit up the nearest adult toy store and indulge 🙂
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