Date night

3 Dec

So… tonight is date night.

Four months to the day since the pizza of doom, I am actually going to put on some makeup and go to a bar and try and make conversation with a man (who is really very attractive according to his profile pictures).


Weird. Weird. Weird. 

Whereas my ‘kindasortasemi’ date with Wedding Boy could have been just a catch up with an old friend, this is very much a date. With a stranger.

I feel quite out of sorts about the whole thing. Obviously, my last date was with my ex. And I feel a little like I’ve forgotten how to date. (Worse news, I never knew how to flirt in the first place.) I feel incredibly nervous about the whole showing up and surveying everyone in the bar trying to work out which one he is. I feel even worse about him doing the same thing.

What if he doesn’t think I’m pretty? What if he thinks I’m boring? What if I can’t hear him (this is often a problem as everyone is taller than me and it gets hard to hear when their faces are so high up)? What if he doesn’t like my hair? No, that’s silly. My hair looks fabulous today. And guys love long, long hair.

So this guy – B – is from the eHarmony. 

As a friend (who has also used eHarmony, sadly with no success at all) said to me the other day, “Sometimes you forget that they’re actually people. Real people.”

A date with a real person. I don’t know whether that makes this more or less terrifying. 

13 Responses to “Date night”

  1. luciddream85 December 3, 2013 at 12:46 pm #

    It’s always terrifying and exciting at the same time. Good Luck!

  2. luciddream85 December 3, 2013 at 12:46 pm #

    It’s always terrifying and exciting at the same time. Good Luck!

    • aprileb December 3, 2013 at 12:48 pm #

      Thank you! Hope you’re doing OK. Been thinking of you x

  3. intothebeauty December 3, 2013 at 1:13 pm #

    You’ve been with me every step of the way-you’ve seen me nervous as all heck before a date! I completely know how you feel. Once you get it over with and finally talk to him it will be way less weird. Good luck! Ahhh I’m so excited for you! xoxo

    • aprileb December 3, 2013 at 1:15 pm #

      Thank you! I really feel quite sick about the whole thing. Will update you all later x

  4. Farmer Farthing December 3, 2013 at 1:22 pm #

    Good luck xx

  5. Tinkerbellknits December 3, 2013 at 1:36 pm #

    Having had my first ‘first date’ two months ago for the first time in 15 years I can guarantee you’ll be nervous as hell! But if you can get over it you’ll have fun however you end up feeling about him. Good luck and remember – you’re worth him and any future men you date.

  6. mick1982 December 3, 2013 at 2:53 pm #

    Wow this is awesome!!! I wish you tons of luck. And remember worst case scenario, you can check off another item off the list of things getting reacclimated to the single world (for better or worse). I know one thing that always weighed heavily on my mind after my breakup was the seemingly endless and overwhelming list of things I had to do for the first time again all by myself. Anyway, I know a glass of wine or shot of whisky helps mellow me out before the date. Just saying:)

  7. mick1982 December 3, 2013 at 2:54 pm #

    Also, I expect a full report as soon as you have time!

  8. thewholeheartedblog December 3, 2013 at 4:33 pm #

    I’m glad you are getting out there! Good luck and just have fun with it!

  9. jadedwildcat December 3, 2013 at 4:34 pm #

    Wow, good luck. I hope it goes well and yes, be sure to file a full report afterwards with WP so we can hear how it went! x

  10. elizabethhiggins December 3, 2013 at 6:23 pm #

    Ahhhh good for you! Updates soon I hope.


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