2 Dec

It’s hard to believe that four months ago we were still together (although he was planning on breaking up with me the next day). It’s hard to believe how much things have changed.

In so many ways I hate those changes. But in just a few, I am genuinely grateful.

This break up has disconnected me from my boyfriend (because he is no longer my boyfriend) and my best friend (because he is no longer my best friend) and the future I thought I was going to have (because I now have no idea what the future holds). But it has reconnected me with other people. In particular, a school friend I had lost touch with, and an old friend who I first met at a dude ranch in Colorado when I was 15. True story. 

Both of these lovely people weren’t really a part of my life anymore, except for the occasional Facebook message or ‘like’d status. But, for some reason, fate brought them both back into contact with me at just the right time. After I told them what I was going through, I couldn’t have asked for better or kinder support.

Yesterday I Skyped with Lisa (from the dude ranch). Lisa is my Texan ‘family’. We met when I was 15, two years later I went to stay with her in Texas, she came to stay with me in Scotland, and a few years later we ended up at the University of Texas at the same time. Which was fabulous. Of course. And, what do you know? These days she’s based in Europe – living and working in Germany.

We talked on Skype for over an hour. Honestly, I could have kept talking to her all day.

A lot has changed since the summer we got high on sugar and fell off the swings at the ranch. And the year I stayed with her in Texas and we lay outside at night drinking Dr Pepper and laughing over ridiculous things. And even a few years ago when I visited her in California while I was working in New York. 

But the good people in your life – the really good people who would never dream of wolfing down a pizza before hurting you – they don’t ever change. 

5 Responses to “Reconnections”

  1. luciddream85 December 2, 2013 at 3:54 pm #

    How very true this is. These kinds of people always know how to make you feel like your best self. I love it.

  2. intothebeauty December 2, 2013 at 4:22 pm #

    It’s so true. I think when someone can take something so negative and find the positives in it, that’s a truly strong individual. Good for you lady. xx

  3. ifthebootfitz December 2, 2013 at 7:41 pm #

    This post made me smile. You turned a hard event into a great treasure.

    • aprileb December 2, 2013 at 7:49 pm #

      I’m glad it made you smile. We all need to remember that there is nothing better than friendship.

      • ifthebootfitz December 2, 2013 at 7:51 pm #

        That is a sure thing. Friendships make life worth living. Nothing better than having a best friend.

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