Matched with my ex

15 Oct

I’m going to keep this short because I should really be working on my presentation for tomorrow. But, even in a beautiful city with a massive work project on, I’m thinking about him.

Here’s why: my ex and I met on eHarmony. I always said I would never join eHarmony because they market to desperados. But when I hit 30 I decided I might be one of those desperados and gave it a go. In three months I met three guys. The first two were lovely, but not for me. And then I met him. And fell madly in love.

About two months after the pizza of doom I rejoined eHarmony. I thought it would be a great distraction, and didn’t really plan on doing much dating, unless someone amazing came along. So far everyone who has messaged me has just annoyed me because they are not him. It’s that simple – none of the people I get matched with are him.

Until today. When eHarmony kindly matched me with…him.

Looks like he rejoined as well.

I redid my entire psychological profile (eHarmony thing) post pizza of doom. I figured the relationship would have changed me and, this way, if he was on there we would not necessarily match. But we did.

I feel gutted. I know he is pursuing a relationship. I know he will see me on there and feel OK with himself because he will assume I am moving on too.

But I’m not moving on. I miss him more than ever.

5 Responses to “Matched with my ex”

  1. intothebeauty October 15, 2013 at 5:36 pm #

    Woah. Go figure. Is there any way to block him from there? I’m sure that’s going to throw him for a loop.

  2. luciddream85 October 15, 2013 at 6:17 pm #

    Oh my god. My stomach just dropped. You know what? I’m like 9 hours from Boston. I don’t mind jumping a plane and putting my foot up his ass. Wait, he’s across the Ocean? That’s cool. My brother works for Delta. I fly for free.

    Seriously though. What an asshole.

  3. annemariehro October 16, 2013 at 4:31 pm #

    Hello Sweetpie! It is good that you rejoines EHarmony 🙂 Keep your mind open. I will always be harsh at the beginning… they are not him, you guys have a story together… But try to keep your mind open. Moving on means to give up a few things and take in new ones, not forgetting what has happend so the same mistakes are not repeated.

  4. thewholeheartedblog October 18, 2013 at 4:34 pm #

    Seems to me like we are feeling the same. I don’t feel like I am moving on just yet, but we are. Take some time, if you aren’t ready to date then don’t. What’s the rush?:

  5. Shanmoo February 20, 2015 at 9:03 pm #

    It was my worst fear seeing my ex on a dating site. I purposefully made false profiles to try find him!!

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